I don't disagree with Keep's point. But I do think that it is somewhat affected by generation. I grew up the daughter of a feminist - I was taught to be strong, need no man and call my own shots (didn't mean I couldn't love one - I just should never allow myself to be dependent emotionally or financially.) In addition, one of the things I am most known for in my personal and professional life is one of integrity. i have put my job on the line to protect others, I have put myself in harm's way to protect someone being battered, wouldn't lie even when it would have kept me out of trouble... etc. Like Keep, it is intrinsic to me to do what I know to be the right thing - whether it is hard or not. For me it is far harder NOT to do the right thing. My conscience is a hard task master.
So I actually found it VERY, VERY hard to not feel deep shame that a part of me didn't want to leave. A part of me saw myself as another weak-willed emotional woman unwilling to let go of a relationship with an entitled man. I knew in my heart that wasn't really true for me or him - but I still really struggled with it for the first 6 months to a year. I would have felt FAR more at peace with telling everyone I had kicked his butt to the curb. That seemed strong and resolved. Part of it was in my head - but I did find that there were friends and family who were surprised by my choice. I could see it was hard for them to reconcile with who I am - but luckily I have chosen most of the people in my life well - so whether they had reservations or not, they chose to trust me and my ability to know what was right for my own life. But at the end of the day, there is a point that you become strong enough in yourself and in your choice that you decide as UrbanExplorer says, to just not care what other people's opinions are about your choice.
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child DD May 2016 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl