Unfortunately the Mrs isn’t being careful w kids in the picture. True. Which only makes it more important than ever that someone put the kids first. Thankfully, Steve seems to be mature and clear headed enough to be able to do so. As we all know, it takes monumental effort to determine what is protecting ourselves and our kids... and what is wanting to serve our WSs some well-deserved revenge. However, for those who can put their kids first, the rewards are great. It's why I think that it is so helpful to get counseling throughout this period. ** And on a side note, the idea that she floated a vacation as being a way to test drive a full blown relationship made me snort (in derision.) If that doesn't show how deluded she currently is, I don't know what does. No right-minded adult would say or think that. Taking care of her when she has the stomach flu for a week while simultaneously working full-time and getting all the kids to school/clubs etc - now THAT's a test run for life. IF she wasn't hurting everyone so desperately, I'd almost (almost) feel sorry for her. At some point she is going to have a come-to-Jesus moment that is going to be very, very, very hard. Of course, all of her own making. But still... it isn't going to be pretty.
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child DD May 2016 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl