My ws never thinks he's done anything wrong. It was all my fault. If I hadn't made him feel that way he wouldn't of had to find comfort somewhere else blah, blah, blah. If I say you should of come to me and told me how you're feeling I get... I didn't think I could. Although the affair is over, he still works with her. I've been completely aloof from him for a month now and I was so angry with myself tonight when I blurted out "it's not too late, it's only been 5 months. I never get anything back and adds to the whole I am so worthless feeling again.
What wouldnt I give for him to fight for me. Am I worth so little that he prefers living at his parents in their spare room.
Your worth DOES NOT come from your WS's opinion, never think that. It is in NO WAY "your" fault for his affair. Those who choose to cheat, come to that decision 100% on their own, period. If you know nothing else, KNOW "his" affair, was NOT "your" fault!
My wife worked with her AP as well, the day after d-day, she quit. She called in and quit, to this day she hasn't darkened the door of that place again. I know not everyone can do that due to financial reasons, luckily I am the breadwinner.
Look into the "180", I did it, even though I didn't know I was. It works. Self care, self care, self care.
Male BS, D-day July 2015, trying to stay out of the dark.....