That is great to hear!
It's one of the oddities of this situation that sometimes our spouses become even better partners through the growth and self-discovery that takes place after. I mean my husband had always been a "nice" guy who could be thoughtful and sweet. But it was often hard for him to put himself in other people's shoes and at times, he could find it hard to have much compassion for people who were from radically different backgrounds or didn't share his same values. Now, he's much more humble - more willing to see other's wounds, scars - the things they've overcome. It makes for a gentler, kinder, more compassionate person. And one who is far more sensitive to my needs. But there are times that it is a bitter pill to swallow that we got to this good place through such a painful, ugly experience. Could there have been no other way my husband could have learned self-reflection and growth? Could there have been no other way for me to see that others don't always have the capacity to understand their own needs much less tell you about them? Life is such an odd mixture of beauty, joy and pain.
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child DD May 2016 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl