Do you have specific recommendations for a separation that has goal of reconciliation???
If a couple has any hope for saving their marriage/relationship on the other side of an affair, I generally encourage them to stay together, even if they need to create space by sleeping in separate rooms for a while.
Here are reasons NOT to separate
Statistically, we know that separation tends to have more of a negative effect on a relationship. If there are children in the home, then attempting to keep their lives as stabilized as possible should be a primary concern. Even if the affair has ended, separation tends to make the unfaithful partner more vulnerable to repeated affair behavior, and increases anxiety in the betrayed partner when they become more removed from the daily behaviors/choices being made by their spouse/partner. But there are some circumstances in which I encourage separation
, despite these risks.
If either partner has made a firm determination to leave the marriage, they should move toward separation. If the unfaithful partner continues to be actively involved with the other man/women, the betrayed spouse should separate. If the couple is caught up in a cycle of ongoing conflict that has lasted more than a couple weeks, they should consider a period of separation. If there is abusive behavior, the couple should separate.
Trying to make marriage work after my husband's 15 years of affairs. Just found out. Currently in house separation.