.....ACCEPT is that even with all the forgiveness & willingness to work on our marriage he still kept wanting to be with her, talk to her & continue his affair with her. So sometimes I ask myself where did all that get me...in the end his actions lead me to a divorce. I wonder if he will ever realize how much strength it took to offer that forgiveness & I'm quite certain I'll never know why he couldn't see what a precious gift he was receiving from me.
Well I think ws who never get it are ws who never get it. It speaks to your values morals ideals that YOU did whatever you could to make it work. Now you know what trying HARD looks like. There are no regrets that you maybe could have worked it out. Shirley glass words it well in her book "not just friends" that if you try to make it work, at least you know you tried. Working on reconciliation is not for everyone but if you did try, please don't feel bad about it. I will tell you I KNOW and many on here how hard you worked and the precious gift you gave him. Geesh , the humiliation alone of std testing is enough to cry myself to sleep.
My ws and I are in limbo. He insists he wants to make it work but still deleting history , hidden emails that he insists have nothing in them and even told me this week , if we don't make it , it will be bc of my over reaction (over 10 years of affairs lies pornography meeting women off the internet---and I'm over reacting about him deleting his emails
Trying to make marriage work after my husband's 15 years of affairs. Just found out. Currently in house separation.