Right. I somehow think that the message that is being portrayed here is that I will tell the BS that the WS had an affair. I don't tell. The BS. I encourage the WS to confess to their BS that they strayed from their marriage. Like I said, of the 6 that I have dealt with as a pastor, 4 of them were willing to confess, 2 were not. The one that I called the BS on, there is more to that couples issues than what I have exposed here. The other couple, they're called it quits and not much more I could do. I don't tell what someone comes to me in privacy. I had a husband come to me and say that he does not love his wife and that he will file for divorce in a few months. I said nothing to the wife, nor did I lead on that the husband was seeking divorce. It eventually came out.
OK, now I understand. I guess I wasn't making myself very clear, but when you answered the last comment you answered my question. I'm glad you are not betraying people that confide in you, but instead encourage and guide them in the right direction. I think most people by the time they get to that point of confession are seeking some help and guidance, and are probably open to your counsel. Good luck to you in your journey to healing. God bless you.