My WH says these things to me. Yet he still lies. How am I supposed to believe what comes out of one side of his mouth while the other side is still telling only half of the tale?
I think all you can do is be alert to the likelihood of lies. My wife lied a few times after d-day as well as just continuing to be secretive for a while. She realised I think that she doesn't actually want a life of sneaking around. Your husband is either going to want to stop being a sneaking shifty lying liar, or not. You can't possibly trust him yet but you will be able to see whether he has gone down one road or the other in (wild guess) a few more months. Sooner is impossible given his history; he just has to walk the walk a while before you can even begin to believe him. I rationally accepted that my wife was comitted to honesty about 6 months (I guess) after d-day. I would say that another six months past that I still had a gut wrenching feeling that I would catch her with her AP about half the times when I was driving home. I would say now, another 6 months on, I am still not completely free of anxiety if she goes to gym in the evening or if I am away for work for a few days. But I don't fret too much because to be quite honest, a good part of me would welcome the clarity and certainty th at I'd get from further cheating. Anyway... Basically, give it time and you will have more clarity.
Maybe it is okay, maybe it will be okay.
BS, d-day Feb 2017, 16 mth affair.