Since d-day I have broken up two fights. In one case I kept the assailant there until I was sure the other guy (who had been punched to the ground) was fine, in the other case I kept both there until authorities arrived (one was charged by police the next day). I had never had to break up a fight before. There have also been a couple of instances where I've had close confrontation with really angry men (in a work setting).
I've found I am just generally coming out swinging more often as well, but not in some generally aggressive or impulsive way, just that if X is right, then I am doing X and don't care if that involves risk or embarrassment. I don't know if it's coincidence or just that the affair impact is on my mind a lot so it seems like the cause of every change. But I can't help thinking that essentially not caring whether I live or die is making me more of a magnet for situations where it seems necessary to get involved.
Maybe it is okay, maybe it will be okay.
BS, d-day Feb 2017, 16 mth affair.