BeginAgain, first off, I am so sorry to hear your story. Second, the name you have chosen for this forum is spectacular. To begin again is what it takes.
Our stories are remarkably similar in that our spouse's affair was brief and that our spouse was pressured, manipulated and extorted to continue in the affair. One difference is that your husband confessed. I stumbled on an email from the AP to my wife which started me digging. Eventually I printed over 100 pages of emails, texts and facebook messages that told me the story almost entirely. I could see that my wife wanted out but was being manipulated. Long story short, I stepped in and saved my wife. I was angry with her and am still angry with him. My wife and I stared seeing a MC and each also saw IC. We began the long and difficult yet very rewarding work of beginning again. We have become the husband and wife to each other that we always wanted, but after 12 years of marriage had lost. You have found a great resource here and I encourage you to read topics that interest you. One month out, I wish someone had told me a lot of what I have learned over the past 23 months since D-day. A lot of what i have learned was here in this community forum. Here's some keys for me: This sucks and you don't deserve to be confronted with this. The first year is hard. It gets remarkably more bearable after you pass "this time last year" painaversaries. You are capable of coming out of this better off. Your marriage is capable of coming out of this better off. I also wish this podcast had been available to me earlier. It is a very uplifting perspective that encourages a BS to lift themselves up. https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast401.html
________________ Male BS D-Day 3.15.2017 Taking care of myself, as we all deserve to do. Encouraging all to bolster their: Emotional Health, Physical Health and Spiritual Health