The tangled web they weave when having an affair. I believe some end up in a place they never intended some just don’t care! Their effort certainly over the first year is a huge indicator to if you may make it. Most don’t get the depth of the casam of deep sorry we suffer the bereavement of what we thought we had together and who we thought they were.The shattered dreams and promises of ‘we were the one’ only to find actually we weren’t.It takes a year just to download ,process and absorb the gulf of disappointment and shattered
gain a new reality of a person a stranger who we shared our minds and bodies with our hope ,loyalty and trust.Someone who’s children we had who we stayed by their side through bereavement,redundancy,illness ,changes of career.All this was taken as an entitlement and our loyalty was not reciprocated. Time is a great healer a comforter and finally a decider wether to stay or go and that’s if your partners working hard!!!Take your time be kind to yourself grow yourself nurture yourself like never before become strong become wise only then can you make your decision.
Male BS, D-day July 2015, trying to stay out of the dark.....