SmallPaws44 - After DDay your feelings most likely will follow the steps for grieving.
1. Shock & Denial
2. Pain & Guilt
3. Anger & Bargaining
4. Depression, reflection, loneliness
5. The upward turn
6. Reconstruction & working through
7. Acceptance & hope
If your husband trickled in the truth about his affair, that will continue to make you start all over in your grieving process. My husband took three months to get all his sexual affairs out in the open - and there were MANY! We are 30 months from DDay, and I am still in the grieving process. I hope you don't take as long as we are taking, but when the truth trickles in, I have to start all over in the process.