That's why it's like a drug addiction... a sober person has to recognize that the "high" experience is a real thing, and the addict needs to realize how destructive it is.
This is so so true. I will have to see if I can find this article I read a few months ago and submit it to the forum if I can find it. Its an article that explains how the same pleasure centers of the brain that light up for alcoholics and drug users...are the same ones that light up with affairs and sexual addiction. Which helped explain the addictive behavior in my WS and the EX-AP, as my husband was going on three months sobriety and she was an active alcoholic when the affair started. At that time my husband also fell of the wagon and started drinking with her. They because addicted to the affair because of the feelings of pleasure it induced. I am not excusing it....but it does help bring in insight.
Female BS, D-day 1/03/2017, I'm going to rebuild me like a remix,
and raise my soul like a Phoenix