raggedylaura
Could my husband have a 'sex addiction' problem?

1. He has looked at pornography (many women consider this grounds for divorce)

2. He has had multiple partners before marriage.......i'm his second engagement.

3. He works as healthcare professional.  Some are affected by this profession.

I'm not in favor of his deceptive behavior......   could issues like the above cause 'affair'????
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surviving
raggedylaura - we are three years from DDay.  My husband started with porn and that led him to massage parlors with a happy ending, strip clubs, one incident of incest, prostitutes, emotional affairs, and a 14-year physical affair.  All of the above was unknown to me until DDay.  So, yes, I think my husband has a sex addiction.  In fact, I know he has a sex addiction.  Porn teaches you to have multiple partners (and he did that).  It also teaches them that women are for them.  Porn also teaches aggressive sex is what all women want.  I heard it said many times on this forum that healthcare professionals have many affairs.  If I had known that my husband was into porn and where it would all lead, I never would have married him.  We are in-house separated because neither of us can afford anything else.  It is a rough life.
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Joe
Not necessarily, it depends on the person.  I am the betrayed spouse by the way.

I had multiple partners before marriage and have viewed porn.  In fact my wife and I have watched it together on several occasions.  It helps to keep things fun.  She also took me to a strip club for my birthday one year and we had to pull over on the side of the road on the way home for some of the best sex ever.  Do I have a sex addiction?  No.  Do I love Sex? YES, with my wife.

Again, it all depends on the individual person.  Those three questions in no way can answer for sure if he has an addiction.  It goes WAY beyond those questions.
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Joe
Thanks for the sermon but I'm an atheist.

"Ten Non-Commandments"
1. Be open-minded and be willing to alter your beliefs with new evidence.
2. Strive to understand what is most likely to be true, not to believe what you wish to be true.
3. The scientific method is the most reliable way of understanding the natural world.
4. Every person has the right to control of their body.
5. God is not necessary to be a good person or to live a full and meaningful life.
6. Be mindful of the consequences of all your actions and recognize that you must take responsibility for them.
7. Treat others as you would want them to treat you, and can reasonably expect them to want to be treated. Think about their perspective.
8. We have the responsibility to consider others, including future generations.
9. There is no one right way to live.
10. Leave the world a better place than you found it.
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