My husband and I are both going to counseling individually. He said his therapist said that I need to know in my mind if he is a Philanderer or was this a one time mistake?
How do you know? Is it certain behavior cues?
My WH asked for a separation, we went to couples counseling where he began to make ridiculous accounts of why he wanted a separation…one including that he couldn't stand that I change several times while getting ready for work or that I don't compliment him when he is dressed? Needless to say why we are in individual counseling. I worked with him for 4 months on these little petty things that seemed so huge to him at the time. We both kept asking if he was having an affair of which he denied. I had moved out at the start as he was literally refusing to talk to me or look at me (we have a 5yr old and I thought it was starting to get stressed at home). After all our work at counseling to fix my little imperfections…I was ready to move home.
2 days prior to giving my apt notice I found FB messages and he had been having an affair the whole 4mths!
He says it's over and wants me to return home. I don't how he manipulated me all summer and treated me like I was ruining our marriage (of which he says he didn't care about those little things at all).
What cues can I see that will let me know if he was as he says at his worst and made himself believe I didn't love him anymore…was he at his worst and made a mistake (as he likes to call it) or was he craving the attention and want her or someone else again?