tosharri, Betrayal is betrayal... and regardless if you are married to them or not... the devastation and hurt are all the same. As far as leaving or staying with him, only you can decide that. Belive me, I could and probably should have kicked my husband to the curb and not a soul would have blamed me....But at the end of the say... the heart wants what it wants... am I right? You certainly don't and should not make any rash choices... whatever you decided... whatever amount of time it takes... is up to you. Only you will know. I agree with you. If he truly wants a relationship with you, it has to be rebuilt on honestly and transparency. Also, his reaction... also help you decide... one way or another. I am sorry your going through this pain again.... or even once for that matter.
Female BS, D-day 1/03/2017, I'm going to rebuild me like a remix,
and raise my soul like a Phoenix