For weeks H was being amazing, sweet and super attentive to my moods. Thursday he apologized for being grumpy and reminded me it was the day his dad died. Things where going so well we forgot to use our remaining free counseling sessions before they expired. That night he tells me his currently unemployed bored friend is coming the next day and staying to Monday or Tuesday annoyingly short notice but I'm going to be gone part of the weekend so not a big deal. He works Friday gets home shortly before I have to go to work, the second day since March that I've worked. He spends all of the time I'm at home with his friend. Next day, he occasionally comes in to say hi, no real quality time but they are having lots of fun on a really ridiculous welding project, next day I take the kids to my parent's house, he ignores his phone for 24 hours, I call his work phone he answers immediately but only talks for 2 minutes and has to go, until recently he was always annoyed when I called or texted his work phone, probably trying to keep from accidentally sending me something meant for AP. Come home the next day he has a "date" planned when his friend leaves to visit his daughter. So all weekend he only really has time for me when his friend is busy.
This morning he has to get up and go early and traveling overnight for work, so after a weekend of being basically ignored he wants to have coffee with his mom and friend before leaving and completely oblivious that I'm upset. So, I insist we go for a walk and I unload everything on him because nothing has gotten through all weekend and I'm not letting him leave town without telling him how I feel. His reaction wasn't great, when he doesn't know what to do he tends to back off and go quiet which is the opposite of what I need. This used to not bother me I could just let him go do his own thing he'd enjoy his friends, I have other things to do while he's distracted. I'm sure it doesn't help that at some time this week probably Thursday is 1 year from when things got physical with AP. I hate this emotional roller coaster.
Married 19 years
2 tween girls
Affair 1, 11/2010 to 2/2011
Affair 2, 6/2019 to 12/2019 - Persistent One is still trying to contact him.