I completely understand how you feel. I told my husband that I had NO tolerance for ANY lies/half-truths/"oversights" anymore. I explained that sometimes I worried that we'd go through all the pain and effort of reconciliation and I'd end up looking like a jerk when I left him three years in because he lied about how much he spent at the grocery store. Sounds silly - but that is how low my tolerance is now. He has used up his lifetime of oversights and/or "not being clear" - at least with me.
i have repeated this several times when we were talking about personal fears - that I fear my tolerance is so low that even a TRULY accidental oversight might send me to divorce. He seems to get it and has gone way out of his way for the past three years to tell me stuff - even when he isn't sure that I care or it matters. But complete transparency on his part - about everything whether it is "sensitive" or not - has seemed to become a habit now. And that has really begun to repair trust for us. So if there are any WS's reading this - Get good at being transparent about everything! While it may make you feel like a pissed off teenager for a hot minute, you are going to find that it pays MASSIVE dividends in your attempts to reconcile with your spouse. MASSIVE. And when you see how much better it makes your life and theirs by helping to calm their fears - you won't regret doing it.
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child DD May 2016 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl