A PDF version of an article appearing on our website:
When a partner has been betrayed and carries the wound of an affair, they long for the spouse to feel their pain and accept responsibility for it. But in order to do this, a person needs to be willing to move toward pain rather than away from it, and most of us just aren't wired that way. Combine the natural flight response with a strong desire to get past the shame of an affair, and it is easy to understand why so many cheating spouses simply want to confess and move on.
Original Article: http://www.affairhealing.com/its-good-to-be-broken.html