My husband has agreed to stayed together just for the sake of my 6 year child and may be for a baby who is going to be born in march. yes I am pregnant.
Me and my husband are college friends and are there for last 15 years together and married now for 10 years. We loved each other very much. But suddenly this chatting became too frequent. My husband did not wanted a second child, but I never forced him to have one. Yes I requested him a lot and he is saying I agreed because of your constant nagging. and that is what drifted me apart. If he would have said no, believe me I would have not proceeded with it. I thought he happily said yes.
He is having an affair or rather he chat for long with his friend of 10-12 years. They talk on whatsapp and phone. This is going on for last 6 months. I suspected it but he always said that it is as a friend. I knew this friend and I always believed him. But unfortunately things turned out the other way. He says that he has no commitment towards her. She knows that he is married and has children. His friend is a divorcee.
This is going since June 2015 I suppose and I came to know on 30th December 2015.
My husband is really a nice guy, I cannot even think he is doing something like that.
He told me he cannot leave us for the sake of the child. Whether he loves me or not he does not know. He accepted frankly, but he cares for the affair partner and love her. But he even told that he knew that there would be an end date to it.
I have actually used the letter to tell him that he has to decide whether he has to save the marriage till then I will concentrate on me and my childrens. The next day he said he wants to save the marraige for the childrens. At the current moment he has nothing for me. I told him that if you are coming you are for me and you need to stop all the communication with that girl. He is not ready for that. He clearly said that it might be possible that I start having feelings for you again. But I wont stop communicating with her as she is my friend. The only positive thing happened is atleast at home he is not continously chatting with her friend which was there earlier. Earlier he use to get up early and chat and even chat late night. Now atleast he is besides me.
Before I came to know about the affair, he was showing some signs of feeling guilty and bad. He use to drop in home early at times, but the chatting was going on.I am not sure what should be next step be. I really want to work this out but how. I want to save our marriage as I love him a lot. I do not want to break their friendship but unfortunately he is not understanding.
Hope to get some positive direction.