When my husband and I first started dating 14yrs ago, I told him - if he was ever unhappy in our relationship to just leave that I would not be ever forgive infidelity. We have been married the last 6yrs of those 14 and have a 5yr old son.
He asked for a separation out of the blue in April, treated me like I didn't exist for several months and I moved out in June. We were going to counseling to work on our marriage (he was very disconnected from our family and work was his priority). I was going to return home the first of Oct but I found out about his emotional affair in Sept and that is was physical in Nov (he had told me nothing happened). So I did not move home and now he wants to reconcile.
He has become more connected to our family and wants to try to spend more time with us. I feel the affair is between us and not between the 3 of us. He has done nothing to make me feel secure with our relationship but has made great strides in showing me he is dedicated to our family.
The old single me would never give him a second chance. But for some reason I am waiting to decide to divorce him. I'm not sure if it's the history or for our son or that I truly still love him as to why I would even consider giving him another chance.
How did you know it was for love and not history or the children? did you make the right choice or do you have regrets?