My husband and I were married 6yrs (dating 14yrs) when I found about the sexual affair. We have a 5yr old son together. He had asked for a separation in April, I moved out in June, I was moving back 1st of Oct and found out Sept 28th that he was seeing someone since May. They work together, so he still sees her everyday. He says the only slept together the one time and he knew it was wrong when it happened but was worried I wouldn't move home. We had seen a therapist the entire 4mths, he kept bringing up small things that caused him to ask for the separation, like I asked him to pick up after himself, that he hated I changed 2-3x when getting ready, that we didn't have enough sex (we had 2-3x a week but he wanted it 4-5x), I didn't compliment him enough or say he looked nice in the mornings....I kept asking is there something else, these things seem so petty to ask for a separation especially when we got along so good otherwise. He denied anything else. Then I found messages on his computer from them to each other.
How did you decide to give your marriage another chance? Because of the children? Because of your history? Did you believe it wouldn't happen again? How did you trust again?
Did it work out? was it a one time thing? are you happy or happier now?
I just fear it'll happen again the next time we get busy and someone pays him attention...or that I'll be a jealous wife causing us to fight (which we never use to). What way of life is it after?
Our son is starting to have behavioral issues at school and we are intending to sell the house (he wants to move & start fresh but I'm not sure if I want to...so either we buy a new house together or separate)....how do you make that leap of faith and trust again?