You are right about WS and OW harming other people all over the place, they just can't see it until the damage is done. Now that they are able to be together their "perfect" relationship isn't so perfect. My WS already after only a couple months of separation said he is "soul searching" and questioning if what he is doing is the right thing. Kind of late for that but they don't realize it until they have what they think they wanted so bad, then they want back what they threw away and see their affair as not so great after all. Real life sets in and fog lifts. Separating was the best thing we did, even though I thought I could never handle it. He is seeing me independent, happy and not trying to get back with him. It's a wake up call for him for sure. He says he is not interested in meeting the OW's kids nor introducing her to ours. This alone tells me that relationship is headed for nowhere. I am very glad, however, that our kids will not be exposed to this, it would confuse and anger them no doubt.
Quote: The world's full of people who mean no harm, and cause a great deal of it. That's how it is in fantasy land. But then... reality and real life sets in and the path of destruction catches up. We can only hope this changes them for the better.
Female BS, two kids age 10 & 13
Married 16 years, together for 23 years total D Days - Feb 2013, June 2015 and Sept 2017 All with the same OW Separated