It’s been about a month and a half since full disclosure and about 3 since I first knew anything about the affair. I found out everything in an angry call from the other woman who was upset it was over. My husband was having a long distance affair for almost four years and he found opportunity on several occasions to turn things physical. We are now in marriage counseling but he isn’t talking much. He had at one point told the other woman he would do counseling as an act and when it failed, he would leave me. He says he was just lying to her and is committed to making it work but his actions don’t match his words. He says he ended it and has had no contact but I recently found a search on his phone for engagement rings. He doesn’t know I’ve seen it and I don’t really know his intent. Should I confront him?