We are taking him to a Dodgers game he doesn't know all of our friends will be there to."
Apparently, we are regional neighbors. I don't know where his recovery is and it sounds as if he is still in trauma depression. For my own self, the hardest times were get-togethers with family and friends. In those situations, it is hard, it takes real effort, to not be overcome with memories of such happy gathering times BEFORE the affair crapped all over everything. After one such gathering, my sisters cornered my wife and said, "Something's happened. What's wrong with our brother?" and she gave them a sanitized version of her relationship with her AP - at which one of my sister's said, "Oh my God, you had an emotional affair!" Because of her sanitizing skill, I believe my wife left them with the impression that she and her AP just became too close and had a friendship that became too flirty. Nothing about heavy-flirting with foot fetish photos. Anyway, your plan is wonderful and loving. But for him, it may be an exhausting evening of him just trying to hold it together.
BH, 5+ Mo EA, DDay 3/8/18
"...regarding all as God after God."