Sorry wrote: I had an attraction to someone/male friends on two occasions years before my affair, they never lead to much. But I wish I had dealt with what they indicated then. I felt like there was a hole in my life and my soul and the excitement of the new interest filled this hole. Me too. Earlier experiences and feelings within myself were big red flags years before my affair. I wish I would have dealt with it then. But how do you talk to anyone about that... how do you tell your husband??? It is so taboo... with the idea that good people never do that. So you expect your good person-ness to keep you safe. I had decent pre-marital counselling... But this was not in it at all. Now I want to go tell newly weds or engaged couples about it. Make them aware of the very real and present danger that it is... warning signs... get them comfortable talking about it in the beginning... and how to set up protective measures. Maybe this is over the top... But if I could do it all again... I would go way back before the affair and start to deal with and change some of the early warning signs.
WW, Dday 7 months ago
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it. Jer 17:9