Our stories are strikingly similar. After 26 years of marriage and five kids, my wife had an emotional affair with a coworker that lasted at least five months. She was the interested pursuer while he was principally interested in one thing...foot fetish photos which she was happy to provide. They didn't have sex...but it seems likely that I have my wife's AP to thank for that. My wife had a troubled upbringing that left her an emotionally dysfunctional woman who can't be pressed too hard for too long about details and explanations. We're almost 2 years out from DDay. I had sobbing spells for 8 months, constant anxiety attacks, lost 40 lbs in a little over a month and developed high blood pressure due to sleep deprivation. Just briefly, what was your marriage like before you discovered this affair? How did you feel about it? What did he say he felt about your marriage?
BH, 5+ Mo EA, DDay 3/8/18
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