I have done EMDR for my WH’s affair. It has proven extremely helpful! I keep asking her if she has a magic wand up her sleeve.
It doesnt take take away the memories. It has just helped me to handle them better. I am able to be much more calm when (and if) I can get my WH to talk about the affair. It definitely brought up all up all kinds of other things that I need to deal with. I score 8 on the ACE test (Adverse Childhood Experiences), so there is a lot for a therapist to deal with. My magician therapist also mentioned binaural beats. You can find them on YouTube to no end. I listened to the beats one afternoon while I specifically thought about every fact that I had that was eating away at my brain. Again, the memory is still there. And it still hurts. But it is manageable. I would definitely recommend EMDR. And until you can find a qualified therapist willing to do it, grab a good set of headphones and listen to binaural beats. I hope this this helps everyone out there suffering.
Wishing everyone here peace and healing! Female BS Married 18 yrs DDay 3/7/2017 through 4/2019 and counting.