I don’t think that most have a hard time grasping the concept. I just think that it’s very difficult for them. I mean who wouldn’t choose to look forward as opposed to looking back at that worst thing they have done in their whole life, again and again and again. I get that. WE know that is exactly what we need though.
I think they sometimes don’t want to “bring it up” if we don’t. My wife told me back in the early days when I was taking her to task for this same issue, “I don’t want to bring it up to you, if you’re not thinking about it.” Of course my response was “It’s weighing on me 24/7!!!! It’s NEVER not on my mind!!!”
yes, my husband expressed this. I told him ya his “job” to bring it up, not me. He needs to show me he’s willing to do the work. Since then, it’s been better. essentially, He needs to focus on the past, helping me to heal, while I focus on the future and current season of healing. If I worded that right...I’m on a few cold medicines right now! Ha.
2/11/18, d day #1. 1/2019, d day #2. Over a decade of unfaithfulness.