Here is a link to an article called Do Unfaithful Spouses Deserve Respect?
This post follows on from another thread where I said that verbal abuse and threats were not an acceptable way to communicate, that it maybe understandable or even inevitable after d day, but there is a point where it becomes harmful in many different ways.
In my experience, verbal abuse and abusive name-calling is not good communication. It prevents healthy communication. It keeps people in a constant state of fight or flight, constantly adrenalised and flooding the body with stress hormones. This can eventually lead to physical health problems. Very importantly, it impacts negatively on mood, quality of life, not eating properly, chronic insomnia, all sorts of things. I’m not saying losing your rag and calling your spouse an unpleasant name during one heated argument will lead to inevitable doom, of course it won’t, but when it becomes a set pattern of communication, or a go-to strategy to get “power over”, and this is happening at a later phase, then that’s not healthy for anybody.