After 1 1/2 months of partial truths with huge omissions and huge lies. I believe I’ve been getting a much more complete truth for the last 3 weeks. I’m starting to run out of questions.
I found out there is a mug the whole family has been drinking out of for 9 years that marks the start of affair #1. It was a co worker on a work retreat, I also found a couple of pictures of AP #2 on H’s phone.
I deleted the photos after confirming who everyone was. Later I thought of shooting the mug, then realized that was incomplete, it would have been better with a picture of AP2 to shoot too. Then I realized even if I hadn’t deleted the pictures that would be more effort than she deserves, I certainly didn’t want to use my money to have a print made of her picture.
H told me there are 2 other mugs at work exactly like it and no one left that was there for the retreat. Now the mug is with the others, it’s now a meaningless communal mug (he was her 2nd affair) it seemed like a fitting fate for the mug.
I later found the deleted pictures in a trash folder and emptied the Trash, didn’t open the photos again just watched the thumbnails disappear. I was simple but felt good.
He did a pretty good job of clearing all communication off his phone and we have deleted all of the blocked call and text attempts. I have screenshots on my phone for documentation if she tries to make false claims about who is contacting who again. I also have the conversation from when she contacted me, and failed miserably at getting the reaction she was looking for. She has blocked me on Facebook and hopefully we’ll never hear from her again and I can file what I have somewhere accessible but not in my face.
Did you do anything creative or very fitting disposals?
Married 19 years
2 tween girls
Affair 1, 11/2010 to 2/2011
Affair 2, 6/2019 to 12/2019 - Persistent One is still trying to contact him.