am what others call beautiful, slim and smart, yet I felt ugly, stupid and in all ways undesirable, especially to my husband.
Dear scrappy, welcome to this board and I'm so sorry you're here.
I'm very sorry you feel ugly. It comes w the territory. The rejection I feel is death by 1000 cuts. My ws trying to make it work but I truly feel main reason is his last ap wouldn't leave her h for him. I feel like he really wants her but setting for me. I too , am told I
Beautiful and look terrific but once an affair happens, it is common to feel ugly.
I cannot tell you to stay or go and for right now , it feels right to stay until you figure this all out. If he is still hiding his phone in six months, I think you will have a clearer understanding of what he's willing to do and what he's not.
Trust actions only! Not promises. Read all these boards---good stuff!
I hope you can get healing fior yourself. When I first learned of all my wh affairs (several over years and years and pornography too) I liked to listen to podcasts about infidelity and I loved Scott haltzman who wrote a book on infidelity. Also Frank pittman wrote a great book intimate betrayal. I highly highly recommend both.
Big hugs to you. So sorry for your physical problems. Nothing like being abandoned during a difficult time.
Trying to make marriage work after my husband's 15 years of affairs. Just found out. Currently in house separation.