I’m not sure how to proceed. H wants to go to couples therapy, first session is in a couple of days. But he is not able to confirm to me that the affair is totally over. WS is currently out of the country for some months but I know he still chats to her via Whatsapp most days (perhaps more briefly than before). He’s just no able to talk about it and tells me to forget about her.
Is there any value in going to couples therapy as long as she’s still even remotely in the picture? I feel like he’s keeping her on the backburner, and if so, I don’t see how couples therapy can work. I want him to be “in it to win it”. Anyone with experience of this?