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triplehooks
Watch the movie “Woman on a Train”.  Watch it tonight.  Then take action. 
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triplehooks
Correction: “The Girl on the Train”
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Damaged
Strength - please wake up. He is abusing you. You are his plan B. He is a cake eater. He has shown you who he is and you should believe him. He is a man who would visit his family then leave to bang the AP. You deserve so much better. You need to do a hard 180. See a lawyer. Kick his butt out. 
    I don’t think you can ever trust this man.  He will probably continue the relationship after she leaves. 
    You need to stop the pain!! Get mad! 
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Damaged

Strength- This forum is “ Affair Healing “. Your life now is like a festering sore that will not heal. Your husband’s actions are putting salt in that sore everyday. It will not heal until you remove “ The Salt “ ( your husband) from the equation. Even then it will be a long painful process but will time you will be so much better. Don’t be surprised when you implement the 180 that he fights to get you back. 

  Your husband is not the man you thought he was. This is who he is. He is willing to throw away his life for his AP. He doesn’t think you will leave. You need to blow this affair up. We all are concerned about you! 

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Bgreen

First, I am so sorry you have been placed in this situation. 

second, I think your focus right now needs to be on your own well-being, not on the marriage. Until he has fully committed to you alone there can be no healing of the marriage because he is continuously breaking your heart.  You cannot be truly sorry for you affair while continuing to have an affair. 


you are a person with value, not a consolation prize when his first choice is gone. His relationship with AP is not a legitimate relationship deserving of a gentle breakup. His only concern should be you and your feeling at this moment. Anything less should be completely unacceptable to you. 

Female, BS 21 months post DDay
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ThrivenotSurvive
Bgreen wrote:

You cannot be truly sorry for you affair while continuing to have an affair. 

you are a person with value, not a consolation prize when his first choice is gone. His relationship with AP is not a legitimate relationship deserving of a gentle breakup. His only concern should be you and your feeling at this moment. Anything less should be completely unacceptable to you. 



all of that 1000% percent
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child
DD May 2016

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl
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Experiencethedevine29
How can you possibly heal  a marriage with three people in it??.....




ETD 🌻
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