Thank you for sharing. I agree, it can. It takes a lot of hard work from BOTH parties - but it can be done.
I am currently sitting in a hotel in the city my husband was working in when he had his affair. Pre-DD it was one of my favorite places to go. Post-DD is was a cesspool of triggers. But I didn't want to lose the city, or allow anything to be taken away from me because of someone else's actions. So, when my husband was offered additional contracts here, I told him to take them. And we both came (I can work remotely most of the time.) Slowly, but surely I have reclaimed the city, its amazing restaurants and music venues, festival and fun for my own. We have been busy making good memories that have begun to crowd out the bad ones for both of us. When we go to a place, I don't think "Did they come here?" - I think about the last time we were - and how much fun it was. Time does not, in itself, heal. But combined with effort, intention and repeated action, it can work some serious magic. Using all the newest information on rewiring your brain (the thoughts that fire together, wire together) and retraining/soothing the nervous system as part of that effort will make it quicker and more all-encompassing. So glad to hear of your (and his) progress!
BS - Female
Married 27 years, one adult child DD May 2016 “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - V Frankl