raggedylaura
Affairs happen among Christian people.  This is contrary to "holiness" obviously due to lies and deceptions.

1. The WS claimed he or she was and maybe still is a "christian"

2. The BS is Christian and never wandered.  Maybe the spouse was a virgin upon marriage.

3. The WS tries to claim liberty in "sexual impurity" practices......anything from LGBT style issues to pornography addictions.....

4. The christian couple now embraces an "open marriage"

5. Maybe the Christian couple believes in swinging.  Yes, a couple of people in our area decided to practice swinging early in their marriages.

6. The WS never really had a Christian background to begin with, but recently joined a church.  So they are not really fully into "christian living" or they feel "forced" to live a godly life.

7. WS believes godly living is "boring"

8. WS only was tempted.....but never gave into a full physical affection.......simply an emotional affair.  Eventually knew how to get out of the trap, and knew why it was necessary to get out of the trap.

These various issues show up among Christian couples who have to deal with infidelity problems.  It doesn't diminish the righteousness of Christ, and in Christ alone.
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Dirazz
We Christians know we NEED God more than anyone. All of us our sinners otherwise God wouldn't have sent his only son so that we may have forgiveness.
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surviving
Yes, affairs happen among Christian people.  My WH was a pastor during his worst times with porn and prostitutes.  When he became head of school, he started his 14-year affair with his secretary.  It is hard to believe that who you think you married, isn't him at all.  So sad!
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neslon
Christians are human and fall to the same sins and addictions as the next person.  I think what makes it dangerous for a Christian couple is the tendency to hide the shame and to think they are strong enough to not be tempted or fight the temptation.
I think it would also depend on each person's definition of Christian and how they apply their faith.  I know through the books and websites I've read - many in the ministry don't feel like they can reach out for help for fear of losing their jobs.  Medical industry is high for affairs.  Traveling sales is high for affairs.  More men than women.  These statistics are somewhat helpful but knowing the stats was not going to prevent my husband's affair.  

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raggedylaura
neslon wrote:
Christians are human and fall to the same sins and addictions as the next person.  I think what makes it dangerous for a Christian couple is the tendency to hide the shame and to think they are strong enough to not be tempted or fight the temptation.
I think it would also depend on each person's definition of Christian and how they apply their faith.  I know through the books and websites I've read - many in the ministry don't feel like they can reach out for help for fear of losing their jobs.  Medical industry is high for affairs.  Traveling sales is high for affairs.  More men than women.  These statistics are somewhat helpful but knowing the stats was not going to prevent my husband's affair.  



I'd almost not recommend a person get income through a ministry or other function, unless it had something to do with "food pantry" or basic education of ages 8-12 year olds.  It is better to have a "secular job" and maintain biblical values than to claim biblical values as income and then fail.

The bible is so basic to read.  The more it is applied to life, the less likely failure in this area.

medical industry is where my WS worked and met his co-worker.  His dreams of advancing may not advance as well with poor reputation he builds.
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Keepabuzz
Funny, but sad part for me is, I'm the traveling sales guy, never cheated. My wife had the affair!!!! You would think it would have been me, lots and lots of opportunities, almost zero chance of being caught, but no. So the shoe doesn't always fit...
Male BS, D-day July 2015, trying to stay out of the dark.....
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