Last May my husband dumped a truck load of pent up depression on me all at once. He had recently weaned him self off of long term high dose opiates. He told me he would need help and it would be hard when he started, I told him to just let m know what he needed. Caffeine is the strongest thing I’ve ever been addicted to so I didn’t really know what to expect or look for. He never asked for help he held everything in and fell into a very deep depression and was suicidal. We had a very hard conversation that left me worried and mad.
He bottled everything back up and his affair started the next month. He became more distant protected his phone which he has never done before, tried to drown himself in alcohol, started smoking, became very reckless and gradually became more emotionally and physically distant.
Today 5 months after the affair ended he is happier than I have seen him in years. He has dug deep and is more open, things he’s been holding in since he was a kid are slowly creeping out. He’s not perfect but he’s gradually becoming the person he wants to be.
I’m starting to let go of some of my anxiety and temptation to mess with AP’s head. I wish she’d stop trying to contact him.
Sorry if I have any strange typos, I’m on heavy pain killers and a little sleepy.
Married 19 years
2 tween girls
Affair 1, 11/2010 to 2/2011
Affair 2, 6/2019 to 12/2019 - Persistent One is still trying to contact him.