It is our 24 yr anniversary tomorrow. It is our second after Dday. I still don't want to celebrate it, even though things are going pretty well with us. Will I ever feel differently? Anyone further along have similar feelings? Has anyone gotten to a point where they do want to celebrate?
I've told him how I feel, and he gets hurt and upset. But I can't help how I feel.
He can get hurt and upset, it’s all his fault. So he needs to get hurt and upset at himself. I’m a little over 3 years out from d-day. I haven’t not celebrated either of the 2 wedding anniversaries that have come and went since d-day. The first was about 3 months after d-day. I didn’t even want to see my wife. The second a year later (where you are), we were doing much better, but I still had no desire to celebrate it. To me it would be like celebrating a death. My marriage was dead, she killed it. So I told her a few days after that last one, that I would never celebrate it again. She was upset, and hurt, but that wasn’t my fault. I told her I would be open to picking a new date that we could celebrate this “new” marriage, but I would never celebrate that anniversary again. If anything it’s a sad day for me, certainly not a happy day. She agreed to picking a new date. Our anniversary date is next month, it will be just another day, a sad day for sure, but there will be no celebrating.
Male BS, D-day July 2015, trying to stay out of the dark.....