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  • I Suspect an Affair

    Discussions related to having suspicions about a partner's unfaithfulness. Invited Participants: Limited to those who are wondering about a partner's unfaithfulness and those who provide helpful input/support. Defensive arguments from unfaithful partners should not be posted here.

    10 225 Affair possible, not sure yet. by Bast27
  • I Cheated. Now what?

    Discussions about the experiences and perspectives of the unfaithful partner. Invited Participants: Those who have been unfaithful. This forum is meant to be a place where honest questions and confusions can be worked out. This is not a forum for betrayed partners to argue or vent their frustration; there is another forum where you are encouraged to do that.

    41 1,144 Just ended affair by djeremiah
  • I Just Found Out

    Discussions related to recent discovery or disclosure of a partner's affair. Invited Participants: Betrayed partners who recently found out (through discovery or disclosure) about the affair. Reasonable conversations, not arguments, are encouraged.

    43 842 Two months past D-day by Blessedby7
  • Confused About What To Do Next

    Discussions related to recent discovery or disclosure of a partner's affair. Invited Participants: Anyone who is stuck, uncertain of what they should do next in regard to personal or marriage recovery.

    247 6,166 Who do I got marry 20 years ago? by hurting
  • The Other Woman/Man

    Discussions related to the perspective and experience of the other woman or other man in an affair relationship. Invited Participants: Limited to the questions and experiences of the OM/OW in an affair and those who want to help. It is recommended that betrayed partners avoid this forum since it will likely trigger strong emotional reaction. The intent of this forum is to help ANYONE who wants it.

    60 1,525 Here’s a mind bender by MC
  • The Fog of an Affair

    Discussions related to the confusing mindset of the unfaithful partner, a state often referred to as "affair fog." Invited Participants: All who have interest in discussing or understanding the the ways an affair alters the participant's perspective.

    33 859 What helps? by djeremiah
  • Why do affairs happen?

    This is probably the most earnest question asked after an affair, and there is rarely a single answer to it. Invited Participants: Anyone wanting to consider and explore the various conditions contributing to infidelity without excusing or shaming.

    25 441 Family History of Infidelity by Awakened
  • Online Affairs

    Discussions about online relationships. Posts in this forum should focus on the unique considerations required when dealing with online relationships. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.

    7 353 Feeling stuck by pea
  • Emotional Affairs

    Discussions about affairs that are primarily emotional. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.

    21 342 Help! Need advice by anthropoidape
  • Sexual Affairs

    Discussions about sexual affairs (that may be emotional as well). Posts in this forum should focus on the unique considerations required when dealing with sexual involvement. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.

    19 292 A story of a coworker of mine by blythespirit
  • What about the children?

    Discussions about ways children are effected by a parent's infidelity. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.Open to parents and children (18 years and older) affected by infidelity.

    21 379 Does your WS plan to tell the children? by ssix6pack
  • Forgiveness

    Discussions regarding forgiveness after infidelity. Sincere discussion and even debate is encouraged, but personal attacks will not be tolerated.

    50 677 When Forgiveness Hits by Kelaine53
  • Trust

    Discussions about struggling with trust following infidelity. Sincere discussion and even debate is encouraged, but personal attacks will not be tolerated.

    56 722 Please talk me out of contacting OW by Sorry

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