• Please talk me out of contacting OW

    I posted my story a few months ago, but deleted it for whatever reason. Long story short. Married 18 years in an extremely trustful marriage....

    45 0 711

    Started by pea

  • Thoughts on situation?

    My wife had an inappropriate texting relationship with a person she met at a local beekeeping class. I found out 5 months ago and the relationship...

    3 0 143

    Started by Bjacobson75

  • New Information

    My WH wrote a truth letter about 2 years after dday outlining everything about his affair. After 4 years I accidentally found new info about the...

    5 1 190

    Started by Courage

  • Does a BS every really heal?

    I am 4 years past DDAY October 19th. I am saddened to say triggers still happen. When I let my brain go there, the pain is still there. Nothing like...

    6 5 236

    Started by Courage

  • When and how can you trust again?

    I'm almost 3 months from D-day now... so early early days as compared to a lot of you who may be reading this. I'm feeling a bit down today... and...

    32 0 465

    Started by hurting

  • When your wayward spouse works with the AP?

    What were your success/failure reasons when your wayward spouse continued working with their affair partner? How were you able to heal or cope with...

    18 0 276

    Started by Muzzle111

  • Polygraph

    If your wayward spouse is still working with the AP, Is it reasonable to request a polygraph to confirm that the affair has not progressed? And that...

    8 0 127

    Started by Muzzle111

  • Eventual truth

    Supposedly all truth is out. Wish I could say that is what my gut believed, but for the sake of the question let's assume it is. Is it ok to demand...

    14 1 368

    Started by Kaytee0528

  • How a can of soda ruined my day...

    I am just over 7 months post D-Day, and doing pretty well considering the magnitude of what happened in my WW's affair. In fact, the last couple days...

    3 0 116

    Started by seventy7

  • Loyalty and disloyalty

    I have been thinking a bit lately about the concept of loyalty, and the difference between disloyalty and dishonesty. They are related but they...

    57 3 862

    Started by anthropoidape

  • Understanding and recognizing the "Difference"

    I have struggled with my decision to stay in my marriage. My values seem assaulted by this choice. After all why would I would to stay with a man...

    24 6 980

    Started by Kelaine53

  • Spying

    Hello here's my dilemma I put a tracking device on my husband's car without his knowledge. It was like a crutch for me anytime I felt uneasy of...

    19 2 527

    Started by Broken

  • Eventual truth... What do I need?

    The entire truth is supposedly out but i wish that is what my gut believed, but for the sake of the question let's assume it is. Is it ok to demand...

    2 0 176

    Started by HangingOn

  • How to handle building trust

    ok, we’ve been at this healing stuff for over a year now , D day was oct 15, 2016. Right after we got back from a romantic trip to Sedona. This...

    8 0 189

    Started by Healing

  • Eventual truth... What do I need?


    0 0 69

    Started by HangingOn

  • Feeling Stuck

    It's been almost 9 months since Dday, and while our relationship is getting better - I'm feeling stuck. I stayed with my CH after his 2 year affair...

    10 0 299

    Started by BrokenHearted

  • Turning the tables?

    My wife and I have been together 15 years, 2 children (14 and 10). The last few years have been challenging: she started a business that is...

    20 0 548

    Started by Itsdd

  • Fake Emails Maybe?

    I am the BS and just found out 2 months ago that my H was hooking up with swinger couples for the first 10 years of our relationship. He has not...

    0 0 141

    Started by SecretSwinger

  • Need some support

    10 months after d-day and the last few times I was feeling anxiety wh has not been very supportive because he is resentful towards me. Today I tried...

    2 0 139

    Started by Paw

  • anxiety today

    I don't know why but I am feeling super anxious today. Partly because I don't know where my spouse is. I know he isn't at home and currently doesn't...

    9 1 195

    Started by arizons

  • how much info to know and lying

    What has anyone else found helpful to know about the cheating? I just found out 4 weeks ago and have asked some basic questions, but am unsure of...

    30 0 813

    Started by Paw

  • Is this trust?

    I'm 6 months from d-day now. My husband asks me here and there if I trust in him in any way at this time. I always say I trust you love me, I trust...

    24 0 286

    Started by Lookingahead

  • Unfounded Anxieties

    Hi everyone, Can anyone help me out here? It's been nearly 18 months since D-Day and I have no reason to think that anything is wrong. My wife seems...

    10 0 249

    Started by sabalias

  • So Broken. To my husband who dosent get it

    An opinion? You mean your rationalize why you lie. Make promises you never keep. You say you love me? You would never let anyone ever hurt me. You...

    2 0 252

    Started by 1987broken

  • Husband watching porn

    My husband had an affair which I discovered 6 montha ago. We are working on our marriage and it has improved. I continue to struggle with trust,...

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    Started by Sue