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I Suspect an Affair
Discussions related to having suspicions about a partner's unfaithfulness. Invited Participants: Limited to those who are wondering about a partner's unfaithfulness and those who provide helpful input/support. Defensive arguments from unfaithful partners should not be posted here.
I Cheated. Now what?
Discussions about the experiences and perspectives of the unfaithful partner. Invited Participants: Those who have been unfaithful. This forum is meant to be a place where honest questions and confusions can be worked out. This is not a forum for betrayed partners to argue or vent their frustration; there is another forum where you are encouraged to do that.
I Just Found Out
Discussions related to recent discovery or disclosure of a partner's affair. Invited Participants: Betrayed partners who recently found out (through discovery or disclosure) about the affair. Reasonable conversations, not arguments, are encouraged.
Confused About What To Do Next
Discussions related to recent discovery or disclosure of a partner's affair. Invited Participants: Anyone who is stuck, uncertain of what they should do next in regard to personal or marriage recovery.
The Other Woman/Man
Discussions related to the perspective and experience of the other woman or other man in an affair relationship. Invited Participants: Limited to the questions and experiences of the OM/OW in an affair and those who want to help. It is recommended that betrayed partners avoid this forum since it will likely trigger strong emotional reaction. The intent of this forum is to help ANYONE who wants it.
The Fog of an Affair
Discussions related to the confusing mindset of the unfaithful partner, a state often referred to as "affair fog." Invited Participants: All who have interest in discussing or understanding the the ways an affair alters the participant's perspective.
Why do affairs happen?
This is probably the most earnest question asked after an affair, and there is rarely a single answer to it. Invited Participants: Anyone wanting to consider and explore the various conditions contributing to infidelity without excusing or shaming.
Discussions about online relationships. Posts in this forum should focus on the unique considerations required when dealing with online relationships. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.
Discussions about sexual affairs (that may be emotional as well). Posts in this forum should focus on the unique considerations required when dealing with sexual involvement. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.
What about the children?
Discussions about ways children are effected by a parent's infidelity. Invited Participants: Anyone who can constructively contribute to conversations related to this topic.Open to parents and children (18 years and older) affected by infidelity.
Rebuilding Our Marriage
Questions, comments, suggestions & resources relating to rebuilding a marriage after infidelity. Invited Participants: Individuals or couples who choose to work at rebuilding a wounded marriage. Those who have made other choices should not use this forum to argue against reconciliation efforts.
Discussions addressing issues related to divorcing or being divorced from an unfaithful spouse. Invited Participants: This forum is open to anyone interested in honest discussion related to divorce after infidelity. Rigid arguments (always divorce; never divorce) should be avoided.